It’s good to remember when TTC. You are not broken. You do not need to be fixed. When we come up against something that we desperately want but hasn’t happened quite yet, it’s easy to feel like the wind has been taken out of our sails and we’re adrift. But maybe we can look at this in a different way. This waiting game gives us two options. One, we feel disempowered and exhausted, being passed to one specialist after the next in the hope that they will work it out (I’ve been there, this has been me). Or two, maybe after a while you start to reassess where you are. Rather than only asking others to help, you can also start to explore yourself. What makes you tick? Are you happy with your life, your job, your relationship? Maybe you can take the opportunity (and this can be hard) to really look at who you have become and if you’re happy with that person.

I have spoken to so many women over the years who have been TTC, and after taking some time to look at their lives have become really honest about what’s working and what’s not. From here change can start to happen. When we stop and take a good look at ourselves, we realise that most of us need some tweaking (some may need a fully blown makeover and that’s fine too). We might need some help to get there – a therapist or fertility coach. A meditation or yoga teacher. An acupuncturist or TCM practitioner. The key is to become deeply compassionate with ourselves first, looking at and accepting all the dark bits honestly as we can, well as the light in all it’s glory. We are able to make changes so that we can then soften and open our hearts to be able to heal.