Do you have a good support system as you ttc? Some of you are lucky to have supportive friends, partners and family, but some do not. If you feel frustrated by the lack of support know that you are not alone.
Sometimes those who are closest to you like parents, in laws or siblings don’t know how to support you, so rather than say the wrong thing they don’t say anything. They think they are helping but often this only makes you feel more isolated and alone, or if they do say something it might be ill thought out or unintentionally hurtful, not least because it shows you that they really don’t understand what you are going through.
The important thing to remember is that everyone is doing the best that they can with the situation that they are in.
If you can acknowledge that some people can only give you so much, it’s easier to release frustration around them. If they are not helping your fertility journey then distance yourself. Remember this is not forever, but now you need to be surrounded by people that lift you up, not bring you down. Start slowly and gently. Maybe you don’t take every call, maybe you don’t see them so much, maybe you are more selective with what you tell them. Ask yourself once you’ve been in their presence, ‘do I feel better or worse than I did before?’ If it’s the latter remember you are the important person here. Protect yourself by taking a step back and use the energy that was being wasted on frustration to support your own fertility journey. Then say this mantra 3 times to start the process of freeing yourself from the person who’s frustrating you. Close your eyes and breathe softly:
- Inhale and as you exhale say ‘I love you’ (even if you don’t love them).
- Inhale and as you exhale say ‘I forgive you’ (even if you don’t forgive them).
- Inhale and as you exhale say ‘I release all frustration around you’ (even if you find it hard to release the frustration that they bring to you).
Let’s face it, they are probably not going to change, so if you can start to shift how you think (even if what you say you don’t truely feel yet) this enables you to start the process.
Remember what you think and feel you make real. This is a gentle step, it doesn’t happen over night. Breathe out and let go of your frustration so you can feel happier and lighter. Start this release today.