TTC: If you are not naturally patient, your ttc journey usually gives you a crash course in it. I hated having to be patient. Waiting has never been my strong point. I wanted to be at the end of the road with my babe in my arms. I didn’t want to be told to ‘hold tight’ [...]
TTC: Remember when you wanted what you currently have? Can you cast your mind back to who you were then? This is not to negate what you are going through right now as you ttc, but it allows you to get perspective. So let's play with this idea a little and think about its trajectory. At [...]
TTC*: How many of us know we should be meditating as we TTC but don't seem to make the time? Maybe you've tried it and decided that it's not for you. Perhaps you've practiced meditating in the past but you can't seem to focus, your mind just wanders around; you can't stop thoughts from coming up. [...]
TTC: I was chatting to my best friend today and she told me, 'I feel so angry all the time. I've been a complete bitch to everyone who cares about me, but I can't seem to snap out of it.' Anger is such a destructive emotion, but at the same time when it's in full flight [...]
TTC: When you're frightened how to do you stop your monkey mind chattering and making things worse? For many of us, our fears come screeching up like a troop of wild monkeys, distracting our mind and filling us with a sense of dis-ease. Within the monkey mind family there is a big boss. The Fear Monkey. [...]
TTC: When things aren't going as you wish and you're having a hard time, what do you say to yourself and how do you react? We all have ways that help us to cope when we face adversity. Often, this is how we've reacted our whole lives when difficulties crop up. These negative behavioural patterns can [...]
TTC: We've all felt fear at some point as we TTC, but how to manage this intense emotion? In Tara Mohr's wonderful book Playing Big, she writes about how the Rabbi and spiritual teacher Rabbi Alan Lew made her think about fear in a totally new way. In his book, Be Still and Get Going, he explains how the [...]
TTC: What is the difference between empathy and compassion - and how can this understanding help us as we TTC? Empathy is the capacity to feel what other people feel and be able to take their view and be with them when they're going through something tough. Compassion includes empathy, being able to feel with others, [...]
TTC: How often do you feel frustration and blame about what you're going through? For me, frustration was an emotion that seemed to be ever present as we ttc'ed. Blaming myself that my body wasn't working like it should. Frustration that I was having to go through fertility treatments when nearly every friend of mine had [...]
TTC: Anger. Feeling angry. Having angry thoughts. Hating what you're going through and who you think you've become. If you're on a ttc journey it is very likely that you will have come up against anger. I have. For me it appeared after shock and before sadness and I hated feeling that way, but it was [...]
Melinda Rushe
Since 2008 I’ve been helping women find calm during their fertility journey. This blog is a home for all things yoga and fertility. I write about breathing techniques that reduce stress and find calm, poses that bring a greater blood supply to the reproductive organs and lots of posts about reframing thoughts to balance out negative thinking. If you’re feeling anxious about your fertility journey, come and join our community of women who are travelling a similar path.
