TTC: How many times have you felt guilty as you ttc? Guilt is such a corrosive emotion that I felt many times during my fertility journey. I read this on my insta feed today which I could totally relate to, perhaps you can too: 'Today I feel that I'm drowning in guilt. Guilt that I want [...]
TTC: I'm not really into new year resolutions. Instead, I like to think of one word that I would like to try and incorporate more into my life the following year. Then when I'm up against it, or stressed, or thinking about taking on more, I can come back to my word and ask, 'does this [...]
TTC: Have a think back...when your doctor calls you with a negative result, when your beta numbers are falling, when you're waiting for your next period to begin and it's just not coming, when you feel everything is getting closer and then your TTC goalposts move and everything feels so damn far away - what do [...]
TTC: When you're trying to have a baby, the end of the year can bring up strong emotions (if it’s combined with a birthday, times that by ten). It’s easy to feel that you haven’t moved forward AT ALL despite all you've been through, especially when your social media feed is full of new pregnancies and [...]
TTC: This photo is of me around 4 or 5 years old. Goggles on head, cape towel around my shoulders. Robin to my brothers Batman. I love this photo. It reminds me who I really am, before life got in the way. When I start to give myself a hard time I look at her little [...]
TTC: ‘Scuse the expletive, but I love this photo. If you were to unfuck yourself, what age would that be? When was it you felt balanced, calm and strong? When did you feel you could take on the world and do ANYTHING and be anyone? Think back to who you were then. Can you remember how [...]
TTC: If you are feeling frustrated with your partner as you ttc, how do you get your relationship back on track? Let's talk a little about our love relationships with partners or husbands. Our fertility issues are not only consuming but also test the strongest of relationships. Sometimes, if we're lucky, we find that adversity brings [...]
TTC: When you're struggling to conceive, being grateful is not a natural first step. I clearly remember thinking, "Don't tell me to be grateful for my life if it's without a child." I didn't want to hear it. But if I could have shifted my perspective slightly and asked myself instead, "What do I have in my life [...]
TTC: I was chatting to my best friend today and she told me, 'I feel so angry all the time. I've been a complete bitch to everyone who cares about me, but I can't seem to snap out of it.' Anger is such a destructive emotion, but at the same time when it's in full flight [...]
TTC: What is the difference between empathy and compassion - and how can this understanding help us as we TTC? Empathy is the capacity to feel what other people feel and be able to take their view and be with them when they're going through something tough. Compassion includes empathy, being able to feel with others, [...]
Melinda Rushe
Since 2008 I’ve been helping women find calm during their fertility journey. This blog is a home for all things yoga and fertility. I write about breathing techniques that reduce stress and find calm, poses that bring a greater blood supply to the reproductive organs and lots of posts about reframing thoughts to balance out negative thinking. If you’re feeling anxious about your fertility journey, come and join our community of women who are travelling a similar path.
