TTC: How do you forgive yourself when something happens and you feel you are to blame? Shame, blame and resentment are big part of a fertility journey for many of us. Forgiveness is how we heal - but it's hard to achieve, even when we know we should. I heard a beautiful story this week from [...]
TTC: How do you harness anxious thoughts? When you think about your fertility journey, what percentage of the time are you anxious? 50%? More? Many of us live with chronic anxiety as we ttc and it shows up in many different ways. For example: You find it hard to concentrate.You argue more with your family, particularly [...]
TTC: I saw this lovely post on my insta feed this week, about writing down the kinds words you'd like to hear on your fertility journey. (See pic above). So many of us resonated with it. And no wonder. It really struck me that so often we don't focus on the things we actually want, because [...]
TTC: My washing machine broke this week. It's been unwell for a while and I've been in denial, ignoring it. The haunting clanking noise it's been making has gone on for months, and then on Tuesday it gave up the ghost. Annoying. On Friday I left my house to teach a yoga class and I forgot [...]
TTC: This photo is of me around 4 or 5 years old. Goggles on head, cape towel around my shoulders. Robin to my brothers Batman. I love this photo. It reminds me who I really am, before life got in the way. When I start to give myself a hard time I look at her little [...]
TTC: ‘Scuse the expletive, but I love this photo. If you were to unfuck yourself, what age would that be? When was it you felt balanced, calm and strong? When did you feel you could take on the world and do ANYTHING and be anyone? Think back to who you were then. Can you remember how [...]
TTC: If you are feeling frustrated with your partner as you ttc, how do you get your relationship back on track? Let's talk a little about our love relationships with partners or husbands. Our fertility issues are not only consuming but also test the strongest of relationships. Sometimes, if we're lucky, we find that adversity brings [...]
TTC: What words do you use to describe what you're going through as you ttc? The phrases that we use are so powerful. They can assist and uplift us, or take us off to dark places - I've been to both and I know which one I'd choose. I was reading a woman on my Insta [...]
TTC: I was chatting to my best friend today and she told me, 'I feel so angry all the time. I've been a complete bitch to everyone who cares about me, but I can't seem to snap out of it.' Anger is such a destructive emotion, but at the same time when it's in full flight [...]
TTC: When you're frightened how to do you stop your monkey mind chattering and making things worse? For many of us, our fears come screeching up like a troop of wild monkeys, distracting our mind and filling us with a sense of dis-ease. Within the monkey mind family there is a big boss. The Fear Monkey. [...]
Melinda Rushe
Since 2008 I’ve been helping women find calm during their fertility journey. This blog is a home for all things yoga and fertility. I write about breathing techniques that reduce stress and find calm, poses that bring a greater blood supply to the reproductive organs and lots of posts about reframing thoughts to balance out negative thinking. If you’re feeling anxious about your fertility journey, come and join our community of women who are travelling a similar path.
