TTC: Becoming pregnant – believe in yourself with Mindfulness’ check out this lovely front page article that I wrote in the Australian Yoga Journal online…

 

Have you ever believed that if others get pregnant this means it will be harder for you?  A while back a student of mine, Rose, spoke to me about her best friend Kerry who was pregnant. ‘I know I should be happy for her, but I’ve been ttc for the last three years and it happened for her straight away. I have PCOS and I know it’s going to be harder for me, but now when I see her it’s like a gaping wound. I know it sounds crazy but I feel that now she’s pregnant, I never will be. I’m going to have to be supportive of her over the next 9 months as her belly grows bigger and I wish it was mine. I just can’t bare it.’

It’s so common to feel this way as you try and conceive. We know it’s irrational but we just can’t help it. It’s as if we feel that happiness is rationed and that if someone else has success or luck then there is a little less out there for you. Their luck shows your lack of it. Can you relate? I know I can. When we believe that there isn’t enough to go round we cling to what’s ours and resent those who have something that we wish for ourselves.

When working out the best way ahead let go of any ‘shoulds’ as in ‘I should be glad for Kerry being pregnant’. Try not to give yourself a hard time and be realistic about your own capabilities because it’s at this very moment (when you know you’re not acting from your highest self), to give yourself break and send yourself some kindness and compassion. When you learn to love yourself not despite your failings but because of them acceptance happens…

To keep reading check out this link for the full article: http://www.yogajournal.com.au/2017/08/14/pregnant/